Parent Cooperation Vital for Raising Adopted Children
Reviewed by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on July 15, 2013
Raising an adopted child has more similarities than differences with raising a birth child. However, issues will inevitably arise, with a new study suggesting that a common thread can help parents whether they are gay, lesbian or straight.
Researchers discovered the key ingredient to successful parenting is how well the parents work together and support each other as a couple.
This relationship characteristic was found to be linked to fewer behavior problems among adopted children and is more important than their sexual orientation.
Drs. Rachel H. Farr and Charlotte J. Patterson report their findings from this first empirical examination of differences and similarities in co-parenting among lesbian, gay and heterosexual adoptive couples and associations with child behavior in the journal Child Development.
Farr, who led the study, said, “While actual divisions of child care tasks such as feeding, dressing and taking time to play with kids were unrelated to children’s adjustment, it was the parents who were most satisfied with their arrangements with each other who had children with fewer behavior problems, such as acting out or showing aggressive behavior.”
“It appears that while children are not affected by how parents divide child care tasks, it definitely does matter how harmonious the parents’ relationships are with each other,” she said.
She and Patterson also observed differences in division of labor in lesbian and gay couples compared to heterosexual parents.
The study suggests that lesbian and gay couples may be creating new ways to live together and raise children outside of traditional gender roles, the authors say, and results are important to adoption professionals and others who work with adoptive families.
Further, the research is informative for those debating legal, political and policy questions about family dynamics and outcomes for children raised by same-sex couples.
In the study, Farr and Patterson recruited families from five adoption agencies across the United States.
In total, 104 families agreed to participate, 25 headed by lesbian partners, 29 by gay male partners and 50 by heterosexual couples.
Their adoptive children had been placed with them at birth or within the first few weeks of life; at the time of the study the children were all around three years old.
Parents were asked to report on the division of child-related labor between them and on factors of their child’s adjustment.
They were also observed by researchers who coded their co-parenting behavior during videotaped parent-child play sessions along scales rated for “supportive” and “undermining” interactions, using an established test.
The researchers discovered that lesbian and gay couples were more likely to equally share child care tasks, while heterosexual couples were likely to specialize, with mothers doing more work than fathers in these families.
In addition, Farr says, from the videotaped observations of family interactions, “it was clear that other aspects of co-parenting, such as how supportive parents were of each other, or how much they competed, were connected with children’s behavioral problems.”
Parents’ dissatisfaction with division of child-care labor, not the actual division of these tasks, was significantly associated with increased child behavior problems.
As predicted, supportive co-parenting interactions, such as greater pleasure and engagement between parents, were associated with positive child behavior for all three types of parents.
In the end, researchers found that whether parents shared child care tasks or had a more specialized division of this work was not related to children’s adjustment.
Child behavioral problems was linked to competition between the parents and dissatisfaction with child care labor divisions. This finding was consistent across the research groups and was not related to parents’ sexual orientation.